ß èäó, ñ÷àñòëèâàÿ, ïî ãîðîäó
È èùó ñî÷óâñòâèÿ ãëàçàìè.
Íî çàáîòàìè çàáèòû ãîëîâû,
Ñóìêè — êîëáàñîé è îâîùàìè…
Íåêîãäà áûòü ùåäðûìè è ãðóñòíûìè,
Íè ñìåÿòüñÿ, íè ïðîñèòü î ïîìîùè…
È ñåáÿ ÿ âèíîâàòîé ÷óâñòâóþ,
È ñêîðåå ïîêóïàþ îâîùè.
<Òàòüÿíà Äðûãèíà>
I am happy walking down streets,
Seeking sympathy with eyes.
But all heads are stuffed with troubles,
As all bags with fruit and sausages…
We have no time to be sad or generous,
To laugh or ask for help…
And so I feel guilty, certainly,
Buying quickly fruit.
<Tatiana Drygina> (translation by me)
Do you think of how often we hear from different people: ”I am unhappy…” To my mind, it is only their fault, because they do nothing to be happy. I’d say that they do all things just the opposite, and so they are unhappy. I think, you should agree with me.
Let’s try to solve this problem and find the way how to be happy. For the start I suggest to look at ourselves, at our lifestyle.
Tell me, please, when did you smile for the last time? I don’t mean to laugh at a joke or at other funny story, and I don’t mean the smile, which you display on your face, because it is necessary. I’m talking about the smile which has not any reasons for it.
Please, remember the time when you come at your work or at institute usually in low spirits, because today you have boring and uninteresting lectures or you have unpleasant meeting with your boss. Suddenly, you, going through the corridor, meet with one of your friends who is “beaming with happy”. So then, you try to explain to yourself what makes him so happy — what has happened to him? It might be his birthday! No, it will be only in six months. Has he passed an examinations!? Oh, no. It couldn’t be — he has all his examinations automatically, and the exam term has already finished and the next one will not be soon… Well, did he get wages? No, it isn’t either, because it is supposed to be only next week…
So afterwards you decide to ask: “Why are you so happy today?” And what is the answer we hear? — “But I don’t really know… The weather is fine today… When I went out from home this morning, birds were singing, and I decided to go at work on foot. That’s all!”
“Yes, it is truth that the weather is good today. — you think. — It is spring already… Summer is coming, by the way…” And after that you feel something warm and good in your soul as if you take a piece of happiness.
In fact, happiness isn’t quite far from us. We have to show kindness and to feed it up, like a bird. It not in vain we have an expression a “bird of happiness”. You don’t notice it in time — it passes by you. You don’t share your cupped hand of seeds with it — it flies away.
You may ask me, what these seeds are, which happiness “eats”, and where you can find them? And I’ll say to you — these seeds are all your good, that you can give other people, and not only people, but animals too. As for the second question, now you can answer it themselves. It’s the great thing to find a man, who needs you, and to share all your goodness with him. Sometimes very often an absence of this condition is a main reason of misfortune.
To my mind, I have answered the question — how to be happy. And also I have answered other question — why people are usually unhappy. To sum up, I’d like to finished by the line from one song, my lovely song: “It isn’t too bad and you shouldn’t be sad so long as you have somebody, who is always glad to see you”.